Unpretty – TLC, Pretty Hurts – Beyonce, Crooked Smile – J Cole
Differently beautiful, beautiful on the inside are the words that are said when we do not exactly fit into the world’s standard of beauty. However much we want to sugarcoat it, the word is unpretty or ugly. Let us face it, saying “ugly’” will only be offensive if someone considers him/ herself that but trying to hide in the shadow of “inner beauty.”
Don’t get me wrong, I believe in inner beauty. Well, how? You may ask. A beautiful soul, an attractive personality and a warm aura that calms people around you. However, it is not a substitute for physical appearance, otherwise it would mean the beautiful ones are ugly on the inside and the physically ugly are beautiful on the inside but we are all aware that is not how it works.
I am not calling anyone ugly. As I have said, it is what you think about yourself. Personally, I do not fit in any set standards of the world’s beauty. Well, my legs and thighs are juicy and my ass is soft enough to cushion me when I fall. However, I am not the person you would look at and say, “you look beautiful.” At least that is what I think. Don’t get me wrong, I have heard that tons of time before. My response will be a crooked smile (I am insecure about my teeth) and a thank you but my insides would roll my eyes and say, “I am aware of how I look.”
I love that I would never leave people in awe for my face, the color of my skin or the size of my ass. It gives me a good ground of people knowing me by my personality. I do not draw much attention to myself, unless I open my mouth to speak where I subconsciously try to prove that I am smarter than I appear, but that could also work against me in trying to hide the attention from my physical features. Why? It is said that smart people compensate their ugly with their brain. But then again, I remember Hedy Lamar and find a little footing. Also, when I want attention to myself, I expose a little of my juicy thighs and legs.
Unpretty by TLC is a song that reminds us that what really matters is how you feel. Despite what the world says, do you know who you are? It is okay to change what you feel isn’t really doing you justice in your appearance, only it has to come from within. You have to know who you are and what makes you happy in order to come to the decision to change anything.
From Beyonce’s lyrics to the song Pretty hurts, what is considered beautiful changes. Today you may go get that big ass only for the world to say thinner is better or go for a slimmer body just to hear that thicker is better. However, what you need to fix is inside you. Either choose to accept how you look and learn how what people say won’t affect you. Or believe in the scarred beauty that you possess. If not, change what you have to, only it has to come from inside.
J Cole admitted to having a crooked smile. He was aware of it and was okay but people wanted him to fix it. However, he got everything he needed, money, his smarts and women. The lyrics to this song try to tell us that what matters the most should be how we feel about ourselves. Accept what God already put his paintbrush on.
I am proud of myself for being aware of my insecurities. That way I choose to embrace what I can and make a joke about it before anyone else has the chance to have pity on me. One thing is I have fat fingers that aren’t proportional to my wrist and I find that kind of funny. I am looking forward to that day when I get to the point of engagement, will my fiancée buy a larger ring? Lol, I will let you know when that day comes. It is going to be funny either way, that he would be aware of my sausage fingers or would buy a ring that won’t fit.
I don’t know what you see when you look in the mirror and how you feel about it. all I can say, do whatever makes you happy. Change if you want, embrace if you prefer, only let it come from the inside and not cause adversity in your life. All the same ,“we ain’t picture perfect but we worth the picture still.”