Khalid asks, “Is it okay if I take the night to be present, yeah?”
Is it ok? I know my quality time people dig this. That’s my love language too. Sounds silly to ask to be present but it’s hard to get that.
Everything is fighting for our attention; family, friends, lovers, social media, Netflix, boss at work, bills, God, kids, sleep, and even our own damn selves. Let’s not even start compartmentalising ourselves into the physical, emotional and all that.
How do you all balance that out?
Anyway this one is for the lovers, so “yeah, can I tell you what’s on my mind?” It’s the vulnerability that gets me. To ask without the fear of looking needy, or be deemed needy. Word on the streets is we should not be entitled to people’s time, even the ones we relate with so I don’t know how people do this out here.
I like to unplug every chance I get. When with friends or lovers my phone stays off my face and I really bask in the glory of great company that is filled with laughs, deep conversations or just some activity with another human being.
“Really need your company, baby
If it’s alright, you can roll with me, baby”
Sometimes it’s not that deep. Sometimes you don’t say nothing or do nothing. Sometimes you enjoy the safety of being around someone you are fond of and trust. Connecting in non-sexual ways. I acknowledge that I cherish human contact, and I wouldn’t trade it for a day of scrolling through TikTok or bantering on Twitter.
It may feel like too much to ask for though. People are hella busy out here, juggling all other facets of life. Chasing the bag and guarding themselves from deep feelings of bonding with someone else lest they become another first class graduate from the school of character development.
Sometimes familiarity gets boring and we have been super conditioned to be high on dopamine all year long. So being fully present may get old and we will soon be chasing a new thrill.
Is it too ambitious to want this often because damn, it would be hella nice!